November 28, 2018

Pink Martini & Monthly Book Review: November 2018

I indulged in Christmas music early this month so only one book (#noshame). I played catch up on another from my summer read list, The Favorite Sister by Jessica Knoll. I REALLY wanted to like this more than I did as I so enjoyed Knoll's Luckiest Girl Alive as an Audible newbie. This story is about four women whose lives are chronicled staged in a reality show geared toward millennials (Gold Diggers). These women, save for two sisters, wouldn't be caught dead together (literally). The characters are self-absorbed and vapid save for a few moments when deep secrets are revealed. There are two twists at the end that I didn't see coming and were subtly delivered so that was my reward for sticking through to the bitter end. 

I've started on Rules of Civility by Amor Towles (who wrote my favorite book of 2017, A Gentleman in Moscow) and I already love it.


Because it's frowned upon to read/listen to a book while at work, I have music playing in the background. I used to listen to CDs, but I have graduated to Pandora. My absolute favorite station is Pink Martini Radio. It's a mix of jazz, swing, tango, cabaret, old French pop (La Vie en Rose) and big band. In the past half hour I've heard K.C. and the Sunshine Band's Boogie ShoesIn the Mood by Glenn Miller, As Time Goes By by Dooley Wilson, Frank Sinatra's Come Fly with MeBack to Black by Amy Winehouse, and Michael Buble's Cry Me a River. Check it out!

Next up:
Last Christmas in Paris by Hazel Gaynor, Heather Webb
Nine Perfect Strangers by Liane Moriarty
Sunburn by Laura Lippman

November 6, 2018

Monthly Book Review: October 2018

The Summer Wives by Beatriz Williams - I’ve really liked a couple of Williams’ books, but this makes the second one that I had a hard time getting into and thought was overrated. It was touted as a great summer read (missed that by only a month or so) and the only reason I can think why is because it has “summer” in the title. Miranda is back to the island after an 18 year absence ... not much has changed and the islanders are known for keeping tightly-held  secrets. Unfortunately most of the secrets relate to privileged men taking egregious advantage of native island women. Not very relatable in the #metoo era. 

Next up:
The Favorite Sister by Jessica Knoll
Rules of Civility by Amor Towles

October 15, 2018

Confession & Monthly Book Review: September 2018

I seriously considered skipping this month altogether, but then decided to hold myself accountable whilst making a confession. It has been a slow reading season the past few months because I've been busy. Busy falling in love. Aww It has been an intoxicating, surprising and mind-boggling experience. I never thought I would enjoy sharing my literal and figurative space with another person again, let alone find someone with whom I feel so compatible. We're still in the "honeymoon phase" of the relationship of course where the thrill of discovery is forefront, but this feels very right. Falling in love in middle age without the "start up" pressures of establishing careers, questionable finances and raising children is nice, but what's been especially refreshing is how secure I am in myself ... my needs, my values, my limits, and acceptance of my body. It's wonderful to be with someone who is not only okay with all of that, but appreciative of my cultivating it. We know who we are and aren't afraid to express ourselves with a knowing that being right or righteous isn't required for such expression that only maturity can bring. I'm feeling really lucky and don't want to take anything for granted, while keeping my eyes and mind open (because one should be willing to see and address red flags if any arise). So it's been delightful, but my reading time and social life have taken a serious hit. I'm working on fixing that.

The French Girl by Lexie Elliott - This felt like a Girl on The Train knockoff - memory lapses, questionable choices, wondering if you really know those closest to you. It was good, solid B, just too long. 

Winter Garden by Kristin Hannah - Two sisters completely different from one another try to relate to their cold, distant mother. I could see where things were going early on and it took FOREVER for the author to get there. I almost gave up half way through, but glad I didn't as it was a poignant story with a good ending. I'd give this a B as well.

Rant: perhaps I'm becoming cynical in my old age, but most books are TOO DAMN LONG!!!

Next up:
The Summer Wives by Beatriz Williams
The Favorite Sister by Jessica Knoll
Rules of Civility by Amor Towles

September 5, 2018

Monthly Book Review: August 2018

As Bright as Heaven by Susan Meissner - set around WWI and the spanish flu epidemic, this lovely story is narrated by the four Bright women -  Pauline and her three daughters, Evelyn, Maggie and Willa. Unfortunately death is inevitable, but things always have a way of working out they way they are supposed to be.

The Lost Book of the Grail by Charlie Lovett - history, mystery and romance are a winning combo in this Fresh take on an old story.

Next up:
The French Girl by Lexie Elliott
Winter Garden by Kristin Hannah
The Summer Wives by Beatriz Williams

July 26, 2018

Monthly Book Review: July 2018

All Clear by Connie Willis - I bit the bullet and started the 23.5 hour sequel to Blackout. However, I cheated - stopped 17 hours in and read the summary on a fan site. It was good, just too damn detailed and long.

Next up:
The Lost Book of the Grail by Charlie Lovett
Winter Garden by Kristin Hannah
As Bright as Heaven by Susan Meissner

July 24, 2018

Konnichiwa 2020!

Two years from today is the 2020 Summer Olympics in Tokyo!

Good read here.

July 23, 2018

Pura Vida

Sassy and I went to Costa Rica in March!!!
Let me rewind. We were all supposed to go to Phoenix just before Christmas, but I cancelled due to urethra surgery (one of the best decisions I ever made!). I promised the kids we’d go somewhere else for spring break. Then Chunky said he didn't want to go anywhere - I asked several times - so I started planing a girls trip. Sassy wanted to go to Vegas so I booked a flight and figured we’d gamble, see a show, etc. About 6 weeks before we were to go I started having second thoughts. Telling Sassy that I thought it better if she went to Vegas with her girlfriends vs her 50 year old mother, I researched somewhere new and exciting that wouldn’t break the bank. London, Dublin and Barcelona were possibilities though I wasn’t super excited about jet lag - like childbirth, you need some time in between to forget the pain (ha!). Then I clicked on the deal of the day on a a travel site and up popped Costa Rica. I found the airline where we had credits flies there and it was a done deal. Imagine Sassy’s surprise!

With a little inspiration from the travel site and a ton of Pinterest research I decided we’d stay in three areas on the west side: Arenal (rainforest), Monteverde (cloud forest) and the Gulf of Papagayo (beach/tropical dry forest). We arrived in Liberia, the largest airport on the west coast (Pacific side).

From Liberia it was a 3.5 hour drive east to our resort outside of La Fortuna. Though many sites touted how safe it was to drive in CR, I am glad I purchased transportation as many of the roads were precarious (a little to one way was a steep drop and a little to the other was the side of a hill/mountain). We drove a short way on the Intercontinental highway, then off onto moderately paved roads the rest of the way - all along the the north and east sides of lake Arenal. There are probably 100 resorts ranging from budget to absolute luxury. This pic is at the west end of Arena Lake - our resort and the volano were on the other end.
It took me awhile to wrap my head around the fact that we were in the rainforest. The resort I initially selected was full and the travel company offered a replacement at the same rating and price (moderate). We were really happy with Arenal Paraiso as we just needed a place to keep our stuff, sleep and clean up. We had our own cabin with a great view, good daily breakfast buffet and natural hot springs (though lukewarm). The grounds were beautiful - every inch had a phenomenal view of the volcano and the only things that weren't green were vibrant flowers in textures I'd never seen before.

I only booked one excursion ahead of our trip - hanging bridges/waterfall/lunch for our first full day. We had an amazing guide who spotted spider monkeys, howler monkeys, bats, snakes (no thank you), and gave all sorts of information on the forest. This place is so green and lush, it’s almost unbelievable. Aside from visual beauty, the rainforest had an amazing effect on my skin - it drank up all the moisture in the air and practically glowed. After visiting the waterfall - 500 steps down and 500 back up - we enjoyed lunch cooked by a local family at an outdoor space across from their home. The food was delicious and our guide had one last surprise for us - a sleeping sloth in a tree directly above.


That evening we took a short taxi ride to the closes town, La Fortuna, where we walked around and picked up a few souvenirs. We didn't have anything planned the next day so decided to book horseback riding and hot springs at another resort (Los Lagos). Another winner! We rode for hours in areas that seemed like no one had ever been before. It was drizzling rain for the first hour and clouds hanging in the air that added gave it a mystical quality.
 

The natural hot springs at Los Lago were way better than those at our resort, presumably because they are closer to the volcano. There were several springs ranging from 90+ degrees down to 60. We liked the covered thermal pools for two, especially when raining. After a cocktail we decided to take the shuttle back to our resort to get ready for Monteverde the next day.

Our transfer to Monteverde is also considered an excursion - some folks stay in Arenal and do day trips from there - so we were with a lot more people. We took a van from the resort to catch a boat to the southwest end of Lake Arenal. From there we loaded back into vans to drive into the mountains. It was comedic that we literally landed on a beach and had to haul our bags up the dunes to the road with waiting vans. There were A LOT of bumps and dips - driver joked about getting a "Costa Rica massage"! The scenery was breathtaking - such diversity from the rainforest - still lush and green but VERY different.

I loved the cloud forest region - mountainous, breezy and cooler. I booked two nights at an eco boutique hotel, Poco a Poco. No TP allowed in the commode and minimal towels but I'd definitely return as it had a great location, nice room and small pool to relax in. After we settled into our room we walked around town and decided to purchase a jungle walk tour for that evening.  A lot of animals are noctural so this was an opportunity to see more than we might during the daytime. The walk was another highlight of the trip! The guide was informative and entertaining. My favorite was the walking stick - can you see it on the branch? Sassy's favorite was likely a snake (no thank you).


The next day we took the local bus to the Monteverde Cloud Forest Biological Reserve. This was something I was really looking forward to - hoping to see the continental divide as well as the elusive resplendant quetzal. We didn't see as many animals as in Arenal or on the night walk, but the native plant life (flora) was spectacular - almost otherworldly. The quetzal is the teal dot in the middle right of last pic. Sassy joked that I was as happy as a kid on Christmas morning :)
 

 

The continintal divide is a hydrological divide where rivers west of it flow to the Pacific and east flow to the Atlantic. Here is Sassy enjoying the mystical view -

Finally, we at dinner at our hotel that night and got ready for the coast/beach for our last two days.

We transferred to Playa Hermosa on the Gulf of Papagayo via private car. We were pleasantly surprised by an upgrade to our room at the Bosque Del Mar. I should have taken pictures as it was a two-room suite with two queen beds, super high ceilings, balcony and gorgeous bathroom with enormous walkin shower. The grounds were beautiful and the location couldn't have been any better - set back from the street, right on the beach. It is HOT, and I do mean HOT on the coast. You knew you were close the equator. The area had a beautiful beach and views. The sunsets were a highlight.


 
  

Sassy begged me to book a snorkeling excursion for our only full day and though I'm not much for being in the water I thought YOLO. We saw a dolphin on the way and anchored in a lovely protected cove for the actual snorkeling. LOTS of colorful fish and coral formations. They served a delicious lunch and drinks (I'm looking at you rum punch!) on the boat, and we traded Pura Vida highlights with fellow passengers.

We had dinner at Ginger, a tapas bar with rave reviews. I thought the food was only ok, but it was a nice way to spend our last evening.
 
Our plane didn't depart until late afternoon so we soaked up as much sun as we could before we left.

I highly recommend Costa Rica! Pura Vida (pu-da vi-da) is a way of life here - it literally means "pure life". The country and its people are beautiful, relaxed and unassuming. A trip to Arenal is a must - you can get there easily from either Liberia or San Jose. I would say Monteverde is a close second. I hear Manuel Antonio (beaches) and Tortuguero (turtles) National Parks are specatacular.

Hasta la próxima vez!

July 2, 2018

Monthly Book Review: June 2018

I am enjoying summer so no shame in only having read one book this month.

The Last Mrs. Parrish by Liv Constantine - This was a fun read - karma, plot twist and jet setting lifestyle. “Amber” has her sights set on Mr Parrish so befriends his wife to get to him. However, things aren’t always what they seem. I was a little disappointed at the end - note to editors everywhere, please ensure solid endings when your author has spent 9+ hours building a plot and characters. We want development through the bitter end, not just a quick wrap up.

June 3, 2018

Monthly Book Review: May 2018

It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover - a touching story about recognizing the signs and breaking the cycle of domestic abuse. Very real and relatable (with the exception of references to extreme wealth and genetically blessed appearances).

City of Thieves by David Benioff -  a tale of brotherhood, bravery and first love set in Russia during WWII.

Before We Were Yours by Lisa Wingate - the daughter of a political figure finds that her family's background isn't what she thought it was. A touching, based-on-a-true story about children stolen from impoverished birth families and adopted out to people of means. 

Next up:
The Last Mrs. Parrish by Liv Constantine
The Map of Heaven by Eben Alexander
All Clear by Connie Willis

May 10, 2018

Summer Reading List

I’ve added 7 of these to my reading queue.

May 7, 2018

5 Things You Might Not Know About "The Sound of Music"

1. Julie Andrews kept falling over during that iconic opening scene. The down draft from the helicopter shooting the mountaintop sequence knocked Andrews over every time it circled around her. "It was fine for a couple of takes, but after that you begin to get just a little bit angry," she said. "And I really tried. I mean, I braced myself, I thought, 'It's not going to get me this time.' And every single time, I bit the dust."

2. The Sound of Music was the last Rodgers and Hammerstein musical.
The legendary partnership between Richard Rodgers and Oscar Hammerstein II produced classic musical theatre hits like Oklahoma! and The King and I. The Sound of Music opened on Broadway in 1959 (six years before the Hollywood version appeared on the big screen). In 1960, Hammerstein died from stomach cancer. The last song he wrote was "Edelweiss."

3. The movie could have starred Audrey Hepburn and Bing Crosby.
Other potential Marias included Doris Day, Leslie Caron, Anne Bancroft and Shirley Jones. Captain von Trapp was also almost Sean Connery or Yul Brynner. And some well-known names auditioned for the von Trapp children, including Mia Farrow and Richard Dreyfuss.

4. Julie Andrews yodeled with the real Maria von Trapp.
In a 1973 episode of the variety TV show The Julie Andrews Hour, von Trapp told Andrews that the actress was "absolutely wonderful" in the film, but her yodeling was not quite up to par—leading to this duet.

5. The Sound of Music is #4 on AFI's Greatest Movie Musicals of All-Time list.
The film also won five Oscars® in 1966, including Best Picture and Best Director. And adjusted for ticket price inflation, The Sound of Music is the third highest-grossing film of all time (behind only Gone with the Wind and Star Wars).

May 3, 2018

Monthly Book Review: April 2018

All the feels from last month are a distant memory. I had every intention of reading more than two books in April, but ... I don’t even have an excuse. Lame.

Why I Hate Green Beans by Lincee Ray (nonfiction) - I don’t recall how I stumbled on this. It is a delightful mix of throwback pop culture references and cringe-worthy life experiences. You’ll want to invite Lincee over for margaritas and discuss if it is possible to watch too much television.

The Alice Network by Kate Quinn - This was already in my queue when I suggested it for book club. It’s two years post WWII and Charley is a spirited girl looking for her French cousin. She gets mixed up with Eve, who has major PTSD and an ax to grind from her days as a spy in WWI’s Alice network. The book alternates between the two women and the intersection of their stories is fantastic. Everyone in book club agreed that they wanted more when the story came to an end.

Next up:
It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover
City of Thieves by David Benioff
The Map of Heaven by Eben Alexander
All Clear by Connie Willis

April 3, 2018

Monthly Book Review: March 2018

I feel like I'm back on track reading four books this month (though my son says I'm not reading if I'm listening ... oh to be young and to have all the answers to life).

The Good Daughter by Karin Slaughter - two sisters, two different perspectives on tragic events. This is a bit dark with fiesty women so right up my alley. It was a bit long - every single thought in every monent of each character is chronicled. B

Everything Happens for a Reason by Kate Bowler (nonfiction) - my pastor referenced this in a couple of sermons so I needed to check it out. Kate is a Duke divinity professor diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. The book details how that rocked her world and how those around her reacted to it. The title is one of the "lies" she loves. A

I've Been Thinking ... by Maria Shriver (nonfiction)- I was gifted this and it was the perfect flight read. Short, sweet, genuine, introspective and full of hope. I read several excerpts aloud to my daughter. She has so much faith, but eager to say she doesn't have all the answers and that she's changed her mind on quite a few things along the road of life. I want to have lunch, coffee and dinner with Maria (maybe a sleepover too). A

Broken Angels by Gemma Liviero - back to my home base of WWII fiction. The lives of a Jewish girl from Poland, a half Jewish young woman from Romania and a Nazi doctor collide. Is the harm to one worth saving many? I found myself wishing hateful, evil events weren't rooted in truth and hoping others had really taken place. This book has a more hopeful slant to it than many others in this genre. A-

In my queue:
The Alice Network by Kate Quinn
It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover
City of Thieves by David Benioff
Why I Hate Green Beans by Lincee Ray
The Map of Heaven by Eben Alexander
All Clear by Connie Willis

March 8, 2018

I Will Ski

Chunky and I learned to ski this winter (technically I re-learned, but I didn't have much to start with).
Afton Alps offers a three-week school including your very own skis. Unfortunately I tore by right-hand UCL the week after we finished the course so my career went the way of Lindsey Vonn for the season (darn those little speed demon child snowboarders). The important thing is we did something new and fun and did it together!


March 7, 2018

Monthly Book Review: February 2018

Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro - Oxford defines soul as "a person's moral or emotional nature or sense of identity". What determines each of our souls? This is the kind of book that you can't say too much about or you'll give it all away. I felt like I should like this book more than I did so I rented the movie (I didn't even know it had been made into a movie until I started looking for more info after I finished the book). It's rare that you can say the movie was a good compliment to the book. 3/5

Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult - Timely topic + good character development + moral dilemmas = great book. Ignorance is a lack of education and ability to ignore what is. It is through small acts that racism is perpetuated or negated. 5/5

In my queue:
The Map of Heaven by Eben Alexander
The Good Daughter by Karin Slaughter
The Alice Network by Kate Quinn
All Clear by Connie Willis
Broken Angels by Gemma Liviero
It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover


February 21, 2018

Evolving


I really struggled with what to name this post. I am nothing without something mundane to obsess over. "Change" seemed too simple. "Metamorphosis" conjured the image of a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly. "Transformation" conjured the image of a Cybertron (I blame 80s cartoons). "Transfiguration" made me think of the Catholic church near my old house. The more I thought about what I'm trying to convey, the word "evolution" popped up - which according to Bing means
"the gradual development of something, especially from a simple to a more complex form:
synonyms: development · advancement · growth · rise · progress · expansion".

Y'all know I love a good list and I found the following one on the characteristics of highly evolved people:
  1. Sense of purpose - right now it's learning new things (skiing, German) and being the best me I can be
  2. Actions anchored by values - adventure, curiosity, fun, health, honesty, inventiveness, learning, open-mindedness, organization, resilience, spirituality (and boundaries!)
  3. Attitude of gratitude - I'm most grateful for my family, friends, health and lack of wrinkles
  4. Work is not just a job - I work at the best company with people I genuinely like
  5. Self motivation and resilience - see #2
  6. You control your emotions not the other way round - I've worked really hard at not letting things get the best of me (hello, divorce drama); I see the high road, but don't always turn on it when I should ;)
  7. Self awareness and reflection - this came with age/experience for me and my Masters program was a big part of it; I'm learning to live in the questions and not feeling compelled to fill awkward silences
  8. Make lemonade (or lemoncello!) out of lemons - I'd get a gold medal here :)
  9. Go deep - gossip and being superficial is for sissies
  10. Everyone is a teacher and everything is a lesson - amen
The word "change" normally refers to new beginnings and I'm down with that, but I'm also finding it happens when something old falls apart. The disruption and chaos invites us to listen at a deeper level. It invites and sometimes forces the soul to go to a new place because the old place is not working anymore. I love how the Center for Action and Contemplation explains how spirituality plays a role -
  • Transformation usually includes a disconcerting reorientation. Change can either help people to find a new meaning, or it can cause people to close down and turn bitter. The difference is determined by the quallity of our inner life, or what we call "spirituality". Change of itself just happens; spiritual transformation is an active process of letting go, living in the confusing dark space for awhile, and allowing yourself to be spit up on a new and unexpected shore. In the moments of insecurity and crisis, "shoulds" and "oughts" don't really help; they just increase the shame, guilt, pressure, and likelihood of backsliding. It's the deep "yeses" that carry you through. Focusing on something you absolutely believe in, that you're committed to, will help  you wait it out.

February 7, 2018

Monthly Book Review: January 2018

I started going to a Pilates studio at least twice a week as well as weekly ski lessons so it's been a busy start to the year. I intended to read more, however watching all three series of The Fall and the new season of Grace & Frankie on Netflix took priority.

The Nest by Cynthia D’Aprix Sweeney - three siblings' reliance on a sizable inheritance ("the nest") shapes their decisions and relationships. This gets good reviews but I'm giving it a B- for being too predictable and long.

Killers of the Flower Moon: The Osage Murders and the Birth of the FBI by David Grann (non-fiction) - I read this for a book club and found it better than expected. Unfortunately slavery isn't the only example of mass greed, envy and wrath in American history. This is investigative journalism at its best and provides history of the Osage Indians, West South Central America in the early 20th century and how J. Edgar Hoover used discrimination against native Americans to bolster the need for a national police force. I really liked two of the three narrator; I recognized Will Patton's voice right away and his performance is outstanding. Random - this story is set in Pawhuska, OK, home to The Pioneer Woman.

Chasing the Scream by Johann Hari (non-fiction) - I cut this short because I found myself feeling defensive as I progressed. I got through chapter 10 of 20, a little over 6 hours of 14 total. This book is long on details and, unlike Killers of the Flower Moon, goes over the top to dramatize the victimization of drug users and chronicle dealers’ backgrounds. I really question how much of this is fact vs. positioning to advance the author's cause. It feels really biased. I agree with the author's assertion that compassion and support are more helpful to a drug addict than shame, victimization and imprisonment. I start feeling squeamish however when the author purports that decriminalization of drugs would go a long way to fix the problem, akin to the repeal of prohibition. The author provides dramatic tales of addicts (Billie Holiday is the first) as well as those who find purpose and create meaningful social bonds when drugs are legalized. Thwarting drug cartels and a broken criminal justice system sound really good. But that's only one part of the solution and likely the easiest. The hard part is improving environmental conditions/social circumstances, especially the mental health system. A superior understanding of and resources to treat the deep psychological pain that I believe is the root cause of the majority of all addiction (food, alcohol, drugs) is absolutely essential. Here's where I am biased - I have witnessed firsthand how a person's addiction to marijuana distorts reality and destroys relationships. It only numbs the real pain, it’s still there and the addict shares it with everyone in their path. What responsibility does the addict have in seeking help, addressing the root cause and maintaining healthy relationships? What about recidivism (relapse)? We have reliable tests and policies for when someone is too drunk to drive or act appropriately in public. Do we have reliable tests to know when someone is too high? How much marijuana is too much? Okay, I'm off my soapbox.

In my queue:
Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro
Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult
The Alice Network by Kate Quinn
Broken Angels by Gemma Liviero
It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover
The Good Daughter by Karin Slaughter
The Map of Heaven by Eben Alexander
All Clear by Connie Willis

January 12, 2018

Get ready readers

Saw this list of anticipated 2018 books and had to share.